8 Tips For Talking With Your Daughter About Her Period

Keep the conversation about menstruation positive and ongoing

By Harlisha Homer, publisher of Macaroni Kid SW Houston-Missouri City-Sugar Land, Texas November 16, 2019

Menstruation is a fact of life for every girl. Talking about her period  before she actually begins having it can help to avoid misinformation from her peers and help her be prepared -- and less frightened -- about the changes happening in her body. 

Here are eight tips from the Mayo Clinic on helping your daughter be prepared for her period:

1. Have "the talk" earlier than you think is necessary

Most girls, on average, begin their periods at age 12 or 13. Inevitably, the subject will come up among her peers before then. Do you want to be the one tell her about this rite of passage, or do you want it to be Abby from dance class that discusses it with your daughter? Talking to your daughter early can help keep her from feeling fearful or anxious about the changes happening in her body.

2. Don't overwhelm her

Break up your talk into smaller talks. Your daughter may be overwhelmed by her changing body, and covering the entire puberty conversation -- her changing body, her hormones  -- at the same time could be too much for her. Need to brush up yourself on the science behind the menstruation cycle? Here's a good place to start. 

3. Remember the basics

While the biology of menstruation is important, remember that this is all new to her, and you need to start with the basics. For instance, let her know that her period will repeat monthly. My child thought that it was a one-time event.

4. Teach her how to use feminine hygiene products 

The practicalities are important too. Just because you've talked to her about what menstruation means for her body doesn't mean she knows how to use a pad or tampon. Show her how to apply and remove products, and how to properly dispose of them.

5. Provide her with backup

Equip your daughter with a "just in case" stash of tampons or pads for school. Backups can easily be stored in a school locker or a backpack pocket.

6. Have a plan for her first period

The first period has no regard for timing. It could begin at home, at school, or on a road trip. In the event that she begins her period at school or away from home, have a plan. A visit to the school nurse or other trusted adult is a safe bet. Also, have a plan for accidents at school. Leaks happen.

7. Remind her everyone's body is different

She might want to know why, if Abby from dance class has already begun her period, why hasn't she? Remind your daughter that nature will take its course when ready and that everyone's period is different.

8. Keep the conversation positive

Be positive and open to her questions about her period. You want your daughter to be comfortable talking to you throughout this time in her life -- and beyond.

Harlisha Homer is the publisher of Macaroni Kid SW Houston-Missouri City-Sugar Land, Texas.